TOTD 2018-5-13: Mother’s Day

(The picture is from a bakery in Japan. It says, “Mama Pan”. They got the word for bread, “pan” for the Portuguese.  And I am not sure which language they got “mama”.  It is cute to see a mother’s face on bread.)

I am thinking this day how fortunate that my mom is 91 and still with me. I don’t see her much but I am able to talk to her on the phone. She is still quick witted and cheerful. She had five sons and I kid her that I am the favorite one. (I don’t think she is buying it.)

I won’t turn this into a maudlin post but would love to hear some great little anecdotes of your thoughts on the one who bore you. I am a firm believer that recalling things honors people. To use the Sock motif, my mother loomed large in my life. I am struggling to come up with a good story about her to add to the comments. There are too many.

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  1. This surprised me. My mom came to Japan a while back. One never thinks that much about your own mother but when I had her meet a few of my friends I was amazed. They just connected to her and felt my mother’s warmth so easily. I saw how great my mom was that day.

    I remember my mom meeting an elderly Japanese woman and hearing that woman saying later, “Now, I understand how we lost the war.” What an interesting comment!

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  2. Continuing with the Japan theme, my mother spent a year in Japan when she could join my father who was part of the post-WWII occupying force from 1946-1947. I suspect my older brother was conceived in Japan.

    She will be 95 this month. She lives with my older brother. When you ask her how she is she responds, “Can’t complain.” Complaining was never a part of my mother’s tool kit. She was about getting at it and getting it done. Depression era kid and all, she knew what was annoying versus really bad.

    She is assuredly in her dotage. I would feel guiltier about not talking to her more but for the fact that I know she can’t remember the last time we talked. I will talk to her tomorrow. It will be short banal conversation, but important nonetheless.

    I have long held the view that if we were celebrating correctly we would flip birthdays and mother’s day. Celebrate all the kids on a single day, and celebrate mom on the anniversary of each childbirth throughout the year. It has the benefit of logic, except to the little selfish monsters who value being individually celebrated until they are variously 19 to 40 years of age. A child’s jealousies are such that my brother and I who are two years apart had to get half our birthday gifts on each other’s birthdays which were 3 weeks apart. Of course I am sure that it is my brother who caused this to happen and not me. So, you see what I mean.

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  3. Rodin:
    Continuing with the Japan theme, my mother spent a year in Japan when she could join my father who was part of the post-WWII occupying force from 1946-1947. I suspect my older brother was conceived in Japan.

    She will be 95 this month. She lives with my older brother. When you ask her how she is she responds, “Can’t complain.” Complaining was never a part of my mother’s tool kit. She was about getting at it and getting it done. Depression era kid and all, she knew what was annoying versus really bad.

    She is assuredly in her dotage. I would feel guiltier about not talking to her more but for the fact that I know she can’t remember the last time we talked. I will talk to her tomorrow. It will be short banal conversation, but important nonetheless.

    I have long held the view that if we were celebrating correctly we would flip birthdays and mother’s day. Celebrate all the kids on a single day, and celebrate mom on the anniversary of each childbirth throughout the year. It has the benefit of logic, except to the little selfish monsters who value being individually celebrated until they are variously 19 to 40 years of age. A child’s jealousies are such that my brother and I who are two years apart had to get half our birthday gifts on each other’s birthdays which were 3 weeks apart. Of course I am sure that it is my brother who caused this to happen and not me. So, you see what I mean.

    Whose birthday was earlier in the year, you or the interloper?

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  4. 10 Cents:
    Whose birthday was earlier in the year, you or the interloper?

    My older brother. I would imagine he saw me as the interloper.

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  5. Rodin:

    10 Cents:
    Whose birthday was earlier in the year, you or the interloper?

    My older brother. I would imagine he saw me as the interloper.

    He would! That is the trouble with older brothers. I had three of them.

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  6. 10 Cents:

    Rodin:

    10 Cents:
    Whose birthday was earlier in the year, you or the interloper?

    My older brother. I would imagine he saw me as the interloper.

    He would! That is the trouble with older brothers. I had three of them.

    Of course, now that you asked the question and I answered it, I can see that maybe it was my behavior on his birthday that stimulated the practice. Then again, they wouldn’t have been prepared (necessarily) with a gift for me, so maybe it was his behavior on my birthday!

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  7. Rodin:

    10 Cents:

    Rodin:

    10 Cents:
    Whose birthday was earlier in the year, you or the interloper?

    My older brother. I would imagine he saw me as the interloper.

    He would! That is the trouble with older brothers. I had three of them.

    Of course, now that you asked the question and I answered it, I can see that maybe it was my behavior on his birthday that stimulated the practice. Then again, they wouldn’t have been prepared (necessarily) with a gift for me, so maybe it was his behavior on my birthday!

    I don’t know why they were even nice to him since he was adopted. (Classic brother humor usually used on the younger siblings. )

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  8. Rodin:
    A child’s jealousies are such that my brother and I who are two years apart had to get half our birthday gifts on each other’s birthdays which were 3 weeks apart.

    I was born on My oldest Brother’s 5th birthday. I didn’t get presents, some how He thought They were all His. Heck, I didn’t know what birthday cake tasted like until He moved out of the house.

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  9. Jimmy Carter:

    Rodin:
    A child’s jealousies are such that my brother and I who are two years apart had to get half our birthday gifts on each other’s birthdays which were 3 weeks apart.

    I was born on My oldest Brother’s 5th birthday. I didn’t get presents, some how He thought They were all His. Heck, I didn’t know what birthday cake tasted like until He moved out of the house.

    What’s birthday cake?

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  10. I took my Mom hiking on the Appalachian Trail today for an early Mother’s Day. She’d never hiked any part of it before, and we did 7 miles up and down a few peaks. Great weather today allowed us to get views like this one:

    I told her it was good to do active stuff while we can before she gets old enough that I have to push her around in a wheelchair everywhere 😀

    She wanted to do a selfie at The Guillotine

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  11. Doctor Bass Monkey:
    I took my Mom hiking on the Appalachian Trail today for an early Mother’s Day. She’d never hiked any part of it before, and we did 7 miles up and down a few peaks. Great weather today allowed us to get views like this one:

    I told her it was good to do active stuff while we can before she gets old enough that I have to push her around in a wheelchair everywhere 😀

    She wanted to do a selfie at The Guillotine

    What fun!! Good to do it when you can.

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  12. I’m surprise there are not more mother stories.  How about grandmother stories? I remember going to my grandmother’s house and eating Spaghetti O’s. I guess I just outed myself as not being Italian. 🙂

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  13. Rodin:
    She will be 95 this month. She lives with my older brother. When you ask her how she is she responds, “Can’t complain.”

    I took my 93 yr old mother out for lunch today. Let me repeat: 93 years old and she was complaining about her manicurist.

    This explains a lot…

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