My mom has often said, “Hurting people hurt. Healed people heal.” This explains a lot of life to me. Some people find themselves in a hole and want to drag others down. While others used that hole to build a foundation to raise people up. The simple trite saying is “You either get better or bitter.”
I hope this quote will not be used to put people down as much as to understand them. People lashing out often are transferring their anger to you. Actually what you have done maybe was really not that important. You were just there.
There are also people who have learned so much from their tough times. They generously share how to get on in life. They have smiles and patience when those are hard to come by. If you are just there, you are blessed.